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What Grooms Worry About (But Nobody Talks About)

Shelli Nornes
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Shelli Nornes
CEO/Owner
Publish Date: January 23, 2025
Last Modified: May 27, 2025

Let’s get real for a second.

You’re getting married! It’s exciting, it’s meaningful, and yeah, it’s a BIG deal! But if you’ve been feeling pressure, second-guessing yourself, or even wondering if it’s normal to be a little freaked out by the whole thing… you’re not alone.

Most wedding content is written for brides. Most advice for grooms is generic. But here’s what no one tells you:

You’re allowed to feel overwhelmed. You’re allowed to care. And yes, you’re allowed to worry.

Does this sound familiar?...

1. "What if I mess up the vows?"

You’re not a professional speaker. You’re not used to standing in front of a crowd with your heart hanging out.

Vow anxiety is extremely common, even for guys who seem confident. The good news? You don’t have to write a novel. You just have to speak honestly, even if it’s just a few heartfelt sentences.

And if public speaking makes you break out in a cold sweat? There are quieter, private ways to share your words (like a private vow exchange before the ceremony). You’ve got options.

2. "What if I hate being the center of attention?"

Being watched while walking down the aisle. Dancing in front of people. Giving a toast. Sound familiar?

Not every groom wants to be the main event, and that’s okay. You can absolutely plan a wedding that’s meaningful and fun without making yourself the star of the show.

Destination weddings are especially great for this. They’re more relaxed, more intimate, and offer more control over how public or private your moments feel.

3. "What if I let her down?"

You want to show up. You want her to feel loved, supported, and proud. But maybe you’re not sure how to “do weddings right.”

This one’s big because the pressure to get it all right can sneak up on you. Just know: you don’t have to have all the answers. You just have to be present and engaged where it counts. A good wedding expert (and a supportive partner) will help guide the rest.

4. "What if there’s family drama?"

Whether it’s a guest list dispute, divorced parents, or in-law tension, weddings can stir up emotional landmines. You’re not imagining it. You’re not being dramatic.

It’s okay to be nervous about that dynamic and it’s smart to talk it through with your partner and wedding experts before the wedding week. The best pros will help you build a game plan to manage any tension so it doesn’t wreck your vibe.

5. "What if I don’t feel like myself that day?"

Weddings are packed. You’re pulled in a million directions. People want photos, conversations, help, answers, and suddenly the day’s flying by and you’re not even present.

This is why it’s so important to carve out small, protected moments of calm: a quiet breakfast, a few deep breaths before the ceremony, or a no-pressure schedule that isn’t built on chaos.

The goal isn’t to perform. The goal is to feel like you.

We have spent years working with grooms from all walks of life, and we have found that most fall into one of five unique types. Knowing your style can help you understand how you naturally approach planning and what matters most to you.

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Here's the truth...

You’re not crazy. You’re not weak. You’re not “doing it wrong” if you’re feeling some pressure.

You’re a groom. And this is a big life moment.

Whether you're planning a huge party or an intimate destination wedding, your comfort matters. Your experience matters.

And if you’re worried? You’re exactly the kind of groom who’s already doing it right.

We get it, and we've got you.

At Romance Travel Group, we’ve helped thousands of couples plan destination weddings, and we know exactly what grooms are thinking (even if they don’t always say it out loud).

We’re not just here for logistics. We’re here to help you feel confident, calm, and fully present.

We build plans around both of you. We take the stress off your plate. And we’ll guide you through every step, from booking to "I do", so the only thing you have to focus on is showing up and making memories.

If you’re ready to plan a wedding that fits you, not just the tradition… we’re your people.

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